The birth of a newborn is a special and exciting time for parents, but it also comes with some new responsibilities and sensitivities. As a visitor, it's important to be respectful of the parents space and to follow a few simple guidelines to make the experience positive for everyone involved.
Here are 10 important rules to remember when visiting a newborn:
1. Visit Only If You Have Been Invited
It’s essential to respect the parents wishes when it comes to visitors. New parents are adjusting to a new routine, and it’s important not to overwhelm them with unannounced visits. Make sure you’ve been invited and always check with the parents about a good time to come.
2. Do Not Visit If You Are Sick
This one is a no brainer. Newborns have developing immune systems, making them especially vulnerable to illnesses. If you’re feeling under the weather or have any cold or flu symptoms, it's best to stay home and reschedule your visit for a later time when you're healthy.
3. Do Not Kiss the Baby
While it’s tempting to shower a newborn with love and affection, newborns are highly vulnerable to germs and bacteria that can be harmful to their delicate health. For the baby’s safety, do not kiss them under any circumstances, even on the cheek. Respect their space and protect their well-being
4. Wash Your Hands Before Holding the Baby
Before holding the baby, wash your hands thoroughly with soap and water. Clean hands are essential for preventing the spread of germs.
5. Do Not Post Announcements on Social Media
Many parents prefer to announce the birth of their baby in their own time. Respect their privacy and avoid posting any pictures or updates on social media until they have shared the news themselves. It’s an exciting moment, and they should be the ones to share it first.
6. Do Not Smell Like Smoke or Strong Perfume
Do not visit if you have recently worn perfume or been around smoke. Both strong scents and smoke can be harmful to a newborn's sensitive respiratory system. For the safety and comfort of the baby, make sure you are completely free of any fragrances or smoke before visiting.
7. Keep Your Visits Short – Do Not Overstay
New parents are often exhausted and overwhelmed, so it’s important to keep your visit brief and to the point. A short, pleasant visit is far more appreciated than one that drags on for hours. Always be mindful of the parents energy levels and their need for rest.
8. If the Baby Needs to Be Fed, Please Leave the Room
Feeding time can be a private moment for both the baby and the mother. If the baby is being fed, it’s polite to step out of the room and give them the space they need. It’s a small gesture that helps the parents feel more comfortable during such an intimate moment.
9. Resist the Temptation to Give Unsolicited Advice
Every new parent receives a flood of advice, whether they want it or not. If the parents ask for suggestions or input, feel free to share your wisdom. However, unsolicited advice, especially about parenting techniques, feeding, or sleep schedules can feel overwhelming and intrusive. Trust that the new parents are figuring things out in their own way and offer support without pushing your opinions.
10. Respect the Parents Routine and Boundaries
Every new parent has their own way of settling into life with a newborn. Respect their routine, whether it’s how they want to spend their time or how they prefer to manage visitors. If they need space or downtime, be understanding and flexible. It’s important to let the parents guide the visit so it’s as stress free as possible for them.
Visiting a newborn is a wonderful opportunity to celebrate the newest member of the family. By following these simple guidelines, you can help make your visit a joyful and positive experience for both the parents and the baby. Remember to approach the visit with respect, thoughtfulness, and kindness as they navigate this exciting (and sometimes challenging) new chapter in their lives. Enjoy your visit!
